March 27, 2010

College Romances-The Indian Way



Everything looks pretty. There are smiles all over and every stranger looks happy.
A guy has finally overcome his fear of being rejected, his heart still pounding though.
A girl just heard the words she always wanted to hear, her face more red than ever.

Love is in the air.

A guy proposed to a girl, and she accepted.

Mr. Cupid got this one right!

This will be followed by countless hours on phone and a million texts in a day! You can always figure out a person in love when they smile ear-to-ear while texting. Every beep on the cell phone excites them and fingers start moving faster than ever to reply back.
Every moment they will spend together, from this moment onwards, will be etched in their minds forever. They don’t need a romantic “dating point”. A class room filled with a hundred other students is just fine. Just a look, from the corner of the eye, is enough to make her blush. A similar look from the girl makes the guy’s day.
It doesn’t matter where they are. Whether it is walking in a crowded path or sitting together in a roadside restaurant or being on a dilapidated fort’s top, it is all about stealing a few moments together. To dodge the security to remain together for five more minutes, before the gate closes, seems like the biggest conquest.
Even if they are not together, they are not separate. Their call durations are always in hours and the call disconnects only to charge the phone again. Now the biggest expense is of recharge coupons!
All they need is each other. All they want is to know each other, more and better, everyday. Everyday sun rises with the excitement of seeing each other and everyday sun sets with the promise of doing the same all over again, and again, forever. When others around are busy making careers, they are busy making lives. After all, college is called the best time of your life for some reason.
Their love is true and pure….full of hope, full of promise, ignorant of reality!
Everyone wants to graduate from this place as soon as possible. They want it too. But for entirely different reasons. It’s all planned. Get out of the college, get into a company. Works for two years then tell your parents about each other, and since they love you so much, they would agree. Get married and live your life like a dream. Nothing cinematic,
So simple!
Quite a picture, isn’t it?
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But I know the future. I have seen what they haven’t or they don’t want to.
It’s all perfect except that it is in India.
The guy may not be from the same caste as the girl or the girl may be from another state or worse they both may follow different religions and the worst of all, their horoscopes may not match. Even the most educated Indian people believe in all this planetary crap.
Even if nothing applies, just the concept of “Love” is unacceptable. It’s against the honor of the families.

Everything suddenly became dark.
Where is the love?
It's lost, once again!

Love, in Indian families, is just a vice which is a result of bad company. And the re-habilitation center for this is the institution of “Arranged Marriage”!
India is famous for its legendary love stories. But one point goes un-noticed in all of them. All of them had a tragic end, except for the story of the “Taj Mahal”, which ironically is built on the foundations of a tragic end of an otherwise successful “arranged” love story.
Now what?
It would be followed by a few days of silence and a few tearful calls.
The guy would try to be a rebel but the girl would never have the courage to go against the wishes of her parents. What blossomed in years, would die out in days!
Indian youth is expected to have developed the ability to “forget and move on” on the same day they learn to love others. They are not expected to fall in love too young. I mean 21 is too young in India!!!
However perfect it may seem, your College Romance getting materialized has a lesser probability than anything else in this country.
One of those times when you feel Life was simpler! It isn’t.

4 comments :

  1. IT ALL DEPENDS ON HOW SURE THE TWO ARE BOUT EACH OTHER..AND IT SURE IS CINEMATIC.. SOCIAL FABRIC IN WHICH EVERY INDIAN IS ETCHED CAN NOT BE RENDERED TOTALLY MEANINGLESS AND WORTHLESS. SEEMS A LIL CONSERVATIVE A VIEW BUT THATS HOW I FEEL. AFTER AL 'LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER' ISN'T AS SIMPLE AND INDEPENDENT OF ALL OTHER FACTORS AS IT MAY SEEM TO A 21 YEAR OLD- NOT SO YOUNG AN INDIAN BUT STILL IMMATURE IN MOST CASES TO APPRECIATE THE CONTEXT. LIFE ISN'T SIMPLER THAN SCHRÖDINGER'S EQUATION... ;) THE NO. OF GOVERNING VARIABLES IS EVEN GREATER HERE.. ;) BUT THE PICTURE PUT HERE IS SO PERFECTLY PAINTED AND EFFUSES ALL THE INNOCENCE... 3 CHEERS ! ;)

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  2. 1.planetary crap!!!!!!!!!! well i might not have i way to prove it but do u have a method to disprove it being a science student u are not suppose to believe as well as dis believe on any thing without a prove.

    2.any thing ever remembered in not ordinary a guy meets a girl a girl meets a guy they get married is very ordinagy so ur point that ass the indian love stories were tragic is in correct there are others too prithvi raj chauhan and sangmitra and forget that what about non indian love stories like romio and juliet the novel love story by eric and a german book haidi.

    3.love is all about passion the minute u get married u start realising that the world is not a dream where every thing is perfect.so a right decision is important

    as far as the fact that u are young in india at 21 is concerned i think 21 'IS' a young age to make a decision in face u are always young to make a decision its an obvious decision for us to not to eat an insect at 15 but at 3 it isnt similarly at 25 we know what we want in life but at 15 we dont and the sad part is we we have to make a decision at 15 whether to take maths or bio. hence we are always young to make a decision.that is y we have a system of involving an adult in every decision making
    adult by experience not just by age.

    having said all that i agree to ur point that there are a lot of things which need to be changed in our social structure the red tapism is not just the part of out political system it also the part of our social structure

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  3. "Love" if it happens to you , feel lucky. Why do we all think that falling in love has to end up with happily living ever after ( I am not sure if that is again an Indian mentality or it is a world wide phenomenon ). If for once, no matter for how much time, no matter if you get married to the same person or not, you are in love , it changes your life, it shows how important you are for someone.
    What I believe is that living together for ever is not an end which is a must for "love". You may love someone for whole of your life and never tell . what is important is that you love someone.

    "Mohabbat vo ki mehboob ki har ada par hasi aaye, uski har baat par main muskuraun , vo rooth jaye to use manaun. Uska Naam he kafi hai dil-e-nadan ko manane ke liye , deedar-e-husn to kahna he kya "

    May we all fall in love. atleast once and never worry what will be the end , because present is just so beautiful that I do not want to think anything else :)

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  4. it dosent work that way my friend u tend to think that way even if u dont want u will try to end ur love into marrige.so its not the way things work.

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